Saturday, September 17, 2016

Our turn to leave

"One fine day, it will be your turn. You will leave homes, cities and countries to pursue grander ambitions. You will leave friends, lovers and possibilities for the chance to roam the world and make deeper connections. You will defy your fear of change, hold your head high and do what you once thought was unthinkable: walk away. And it will be scary. At first. But what I hope you’ll find in the end is that in leaving, you don’t just find love, adventure or freedom. More than anything, you find you."

Isa Garcia could not have said it better. The quote fits very well with how I feel about my life and the different choices I have made. 

She also describes how I feel about leaving our friends and family in California;

"Leaving does not always mean betrayal. And I think that, sometimes, we’re not particularly afraid of losing people. What we’re really afraid of is having to learn to do life without them. Because, ultimately, we are creatures  of habit and comfort.

One day not far from today, that just might be our demise.

Because the world is changing and we are changing, all the time, forever and ever. And, sometimes, by holding on too hard, we lose.

And loss can be ugly, beautiful, scary or all of the above but I have found that it is, more than anything, necessary.

When we say things like ‘people don’t change,’ it drives scientists crazy. Because change is literally the only constant in all of science. Energy, matter, it’s always changing. Morphing, merging, growing, dying. It’s the way people try not to change that’s unnatural. The way we cling to the things that were, instead of letting them be the way they are. The way we cling to old memories instead of making new ones. The way we insist on believing, despite every scientific indication, that anything in this lifetime is perfect. Change is constant. The way we experience change, that’s up to us. It can feel like death, or it can feel like a second chance at life. If we open our fingers, loosen our grips, go with it, it can feel like pure adrenaline. Like at any moment, we can have another chance at life. Like at any moment, we can be born all over again. 

So when people leave, I’ve learned the secret: let them. Because, most of the time, they have to.

Let them walk away and go places. Let them have adventures in the wild without you. Let them travel the world and explore life beyond a horizon that you exist in. And know, deep down, that heroes aren’t qualified by their capacity to stay but by their decision to return.

All great people leave.

And, yes. One day, a great person just might leave you.

But our lives are made of revolving doors and for every person who leaves, a new person enters. Not as a replacement but as a completely new character in the ever-evolving story of your life.

When you leave, you begin to understand the worth of what you walked away from. You discover that walking out is not always equivalent to closing doors. Sometimes it means leaving them half-open for the journey back. It is not a virtue possessed by the easily contented. It has always been the beaten down path of the brave."

Thursday, September 8, 2016

The Big move

Hello from California.

The packing has begun.
The Shipping container has been delivered(!) to our driveway.

Konrad feeding the neighborhood cats in front of our container.

For a little while now Jeff and I have talked about purchasing our own home. Finding a stable longterm location for Konrad to grow up. The Bay Area is fantastic and the weather is perfect here. Our friends and Jeff's family is here. BUT, yep a big but, the housing here is so out of our price range that we can only laugh at the million dollar plus price tags.

It's not the easiest decision to decide where you want to live. The country is huge and with Jeff's job we can essentially live anywhere. Although we did narrow down the list a little and considered a couple of different places to live;

We considered different locations in California with more affordable housing. But most locations are a 2 hour plus drive away and we would still be too far from all our friends and family for easy day to day visits.

Denver Colorado, a nice family friendly place thats growing. We visited our friends that moved there and we did like it. We landed the day after a huge snow storm and although I lived in Sweden for my fist 19 years of my life I'm not sure I want to shovel snow every winter again. Denver has a nice airport for Jeff to fly in and out of but the winter weather can make a little unpredictable.

So to narrow down our search a little we looked at driving distances from Jeff's job and decided on Austin, Texas. We have visited Austin 3 times over the last couple of years and loved it every time we have been there. Even though Austin is the Capitol of Texas it doesn't feel very conservative like I imagine the rest of Texas is.
We spent 2 weeks there in April ('16) to scope out the area. Austin is a growing city with lots of family friendly activities. We saw a lot of people walking, jogging, hiking, biking, paddling on the river, and playing in the parks.

Yes I know what you are thinking. Texas is HOT! Yes we know. We lived in Lousiana for 3.5 years so we know how hot summers feel. But there is plenty of pools and splash pads around for us too cool off in.

So if you want to follow along our journey I will update the blog along they way to Austin and through our house hunting and beyond.